Kristin Shane

I spent most of my career running businesses for Target.  A job I loved.  But my dreams were bigger.  And now I'm living them...

Don't take it so seriously.

Don't take it so seriously.

I’m not sure why this pose felt right at the time, but it did so I went with it. This photo was taken as we were in the middle of building out studio 2. We were over budget, the project was late, and the contractor had just told me he wasn’t sure if we’d be open before the holidays as originally planned. I was stressed and frustrated to put it mildly.

Also on this day was our first ever team offsite. It was an exciting day to spend with our team of rock stars. We closed Fly Feet and had an awesome day planned. It would have been easy for the enormity of the stress from the studio buildout to completely torpedo my mood and my approach to the day. But I couldn’t let that happen. I had to - I WANTED to - show up in the best way possible for my team. So I deployed the same strategy I use every single time I’m stressed, upset, nervous, pissed, frustrated, whatever emotion that has the potential to rock me, I just do one thing: I DECIDE TO NOT LET IT.

E + R = O. {Event (10%) + Reaction (90%) = Outcome (100%)} If you’ve worked with me, you know what this means. I use it all. the. time. The basic concept is that every outcome in your life is a result of how you’ve responded to a previous event. It puts you back in control. It helps you realize that the event that has you reeling is really only 10% of the equation. So for me, I get to decide based on what has happened, how I want to deal with it. Letting things get to you, means that the bad guys win. Not taking things so seriously means that you get to determine the outcome. (Here is more on this concept. I can’t claim it, but I do use it a lot!)

I didn’t just wake up one morning and decide I could compartmentalize everything and not take things so seriously. It’s taken a lot of practice. I’m an emotional person and still my emotions can get the best of me because I am human. But I try very hard to choose to channel those emotions for good (most of the time!). And, I choose to not take the bad stuff so seriously.

When I can’t JUST DECIDE to not to let things bother me, here is what I do:

Play out the worst case scenario

I play out the absolute worst case scenario and think through what I’d do. It usually ends up being a lot less horrible than I have it worked up to be and I can get myself back on track.

Articulate my desired outcome

I spend time thinking through my desired outcome and what needs to be true to make it happen given the cards I’m dealt. Then I just take the right next step.

Visualize success

I believe it will happen and I refuse to accept anything else. Tenacity is an incredible weapon against the odds.

Fear of Failure

Fear of Failure

You're asking the wrong question.

You're asking the wrong question.